Feeling of being pressured by family and friends :(

Fanny

I feel so pressured of getting pregnant asap. To be honest, hubby and me do have sex almost every day just so as not to miss a day or chance for me to get pregnant. Consecutive months now and still nothing. As much as I don't want to sound desperate, I admit, I am. Always been downplaying the thought of being infertile but in reality, I am scared. I have regular monthly periods and my OB says nothing is wrong with me. It's just timing. Every time we visit my parents and his, all those questions of when's the baby coming? or how's the TTC going on etc. are part of those visits. An instance in the office when a colleague who just got married last month announces that she's pregnant gave me looks from others too. I don't know if I'm just being paranoid or not. I don't know what to do.

Daja

I am so sad reading your post. I hope you won't feel so stressed about it. The more you feel stressed, the less chances that you will get pregnant. Also, have you tried seeing a doctor to talk about it?

Gaetana

Oh Fanny, please don't be too hard on yourself. Patience is a virtue. I apologize for sounding too cliche, but really that's the first thing that you should cultivate this time. You said that you have regular monthly periods, right? So use that as a source of your confidence. It also sounds as if your husband is very supportive. You are fortunate to have his cooperation too. I think you feel that you're lacking that's why you think that others think of you in that way too. If you are hopeful and confident that one day you'll be blessed with your own babt, it will and should exude! And that bright disposition will prevent others to comment about your being child-less for now. Cheer up girl!

Abigail

Don't feel pressured. Just smile when they ask. The more pressured you are, the more stressed you get and stress is never good in making a baby. Just enjoy the lovemaking Take your time, it will come.

Adalira

Probably tell them that you're all planning for the baby's arrival and just surprise them when you're already expecting! That way they won't think that you're all desperately focused on that having a baby alone. Call me a little b*tchy but hey, there's no harm in telling that white lie for you to avoid getting hurt by their negative comments girl. Cheer up! As the saying goes... "B*tch me once then I'll b*tch you twice!" They shouldn't be treating your TTC period as a circus! Respect!!! And when I say "They" I'm referring to people not even related or important to you who have the guts to comment tactlessly. Ew.

Edda

DITTO to Adalira!!!

Sometimes those people need to be given a dose of their own medicine to realize not to be acting so rude...

Fanny

Thank you dear ladies for all of those suggestions! I know it's better said than done. I know what I should be doing or how I should be reacting but sometimes when I get caught off-guard, I feel a sense of embarrassment or "lacking" when the matters about pregnancy are talked about, especially at work... I think I should be fixing myself first, what I think of or how I perceive myself too, so I'd be able to deal with them properly. Again, my warm thanks to all!

Fanny

What you've said just gave me a "confidence" overload. Thanks pal!

Gaetana

You're so right Fanny. Change the way you think of yourself first and it will exude! God has a plan for you and just think that these TTC moments are a part of it. Cheer up hun!

Idalia

@ Adalira- a big DITTO!

@ Fanny- Cheer up! The mere fact that you have your hubby who loves you so much is already a good thing. Don't dwell on negative thoughts. I hope you and your hubby will soon have a baby this year!