Feeling of being pressured by family and friends :(

Abana · 01-09-2013

Oh Fanny, please don't concentrate on those negative stuff. Of course, do your best in trying to get pregnant but I think it's much better if you and our hubby will take this time to enjoy your time together. Try to travel and do the things you both love to do. It's also the best time to save up for your family. Also the right time to purchase whatever you want (but better to always keep some for your emergency fund!

) as you might stretch your budget when the baby's on the way.

Baha · 01-12-2013

Oh dear if only we could make you feel better. I suggest please don't be too impatient on having a baby. Remember that "Man proposes and God disposes." I am not saying that you won't have a baby, considering the fact that you don't have any problems at all and it's just hitting the right time to DTD. But please bear in mind that you cannot force something as soon as you want to. Take your time. Try to get pregnant but please don't make it your life. There are other things in life to be thankful for. If it happens, it happens but don't tire yourself of it making you not enjoy the gift of life you now have. Good luck dear.

Gaetana · 01-19-2013

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Originally Posted by Baha

Oh dear if only we could make you feel better. I suggest please don't be too impatient on having a baby. Remember that "Man proposes and God disposes." I am not saying that you won't have a baby, considering the fact that you don't have any problems at all and it's just hitting the right time to DTD. But please bear in mind that you cannot force something as soon as you want to. Take your time. Try to get pregnant but please don't make it your life. There are other things in life to be thankful for. If it happens, it happens but don't tire yourself of it making you not enjoy the gift of life you now have. Good luck dear.

Couldn't help but agree with you Baha.

Cailyn · 01-31-2013

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Originally Posted by Fanny

Thank you dear ladies for all of those suggestions! I know it's better said than done. I know what I should be doing or how I should be reacting but sometimes when I get caught off-guard, I feel a sense of embarrassment or "lacking" when the matters about pregnancy are talked about, especially at work... I think I should be fixing myself first, what I think of or how I perceive myself too, so I'd be able to deal with them properly. Again, my warm thanks to all!

You are very right here Fanny... I know it's hard to do the things that you know must do... Things are always easier said than done... But do not worry, the right time will come.

Adalira · 01-31-2013

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Originally Posted by Baha

Oh dear if only we could make you feel better. I suggest please don't be too impatient on having a baby. Remember that "Man proposes and God disposes." I am not saying that you won't have a baby, considering the fact that you don't have any problems at all and it's just hitting the right time to DTD. But please bear in mind that you cannot force something as soon as you want to. Take your time. Try to get pregnant but please don't make it your life. There are other things in life to be thankful for. If it happens, it happens but don't tire yourself of it making you not enjoy the gift of life you now have. Good luck dear.

I agree with Baha. Enjoy what you have right now WHILE working for what you want- a baby! Don't get stressed out. Entrust God everything, do everything and let nature take its course. Cheer up dear and good luck!

Fanny · 02-03-2013

Thanks for those sweet words! Reading your positive words really makes my day. Actually, these past couple of weeks, I've been trying to face everyone with confidence and faith that soon hubby and I will have our baby. I admit, I'm way feeling better now that I've patiently waiting than before when I had to think of getting pregnant by hook or by crook.

Edda · 03-02-2013

@ Fanny - Good for you Fanny. We all have to go through on the chapters of our lives where we want to have something but no matter how hard we try, we just couldn't possibly achieve right there and then. Just live happily, with or without the baby YET. Avoid people who make your TTC life ugly. Surround yourself with positive people to attract positive energies. Judgmental people are a waste of time.

Halia · 03-09-2013

Oh boy, life is really ironic. Those people who's dying to have a child sometimes couldn't hit it and those who are so into their dreams of fulfilling other aspects in life, those who haven't even saved up a single quid get to have a bun to bake. I feel for you Fanny, but when I first found out that I was pregnant, I felt indifferent, surprised and frightened. "Wrong timing" are the two words which were stuck on my mind on the first few days upon confirming that I was pregnant. But eventually this beautiful gift has set in. I am now happy. I know you will be too and I'm happy for you that you're married, got your loving hubby and everything's perfect before the arrival of your bundle of joy. In my case it is otherwise. No plans, no fireworks, no nothing. But I know everything will be ok. As for you, everything will be perfect. Cheer up dear!

Abana · 12-26-2013

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Originally Posted by Halia

Oh boy, life is really ironic. Those people who's dying to have a child sometimes couldn't hit it and those who are so into their dreams of fulfilling other aspects in life, those who haven't even saved up a single quid get to have a bun to bake. I feel for you Fanny, but when I first found out that I was pregnant, I felt indifferent, surprised and frightened. "Wrong timing" are the two words which were stuck on my mind on the first few days upon confirming that I was pregnant. But eventually this beautiful gift has set in. I am now happy. I know you will be too and I'm happy for you that you're married, got your loving hubby and everything's perfect before the arrival of your bundle of joy. In my case it is otherwise. No plans, no fireworks, no nothing. But I know everything will be ok. As for you, everything will be perfect. Cheer up dear!

Amen to that Halia!

Indeed, life is full of ironies and paradox and we're all here to enjoy every bit of this borrowed time.