having sex while pregnant

Adalira

I'm already on my 18th week. My baby bump if indeed more obvious now. I feel awful and ugly as tiny pimples start to appear on my face. I have a few too on my chest. But despite these insecurities, my husband still tells me that I'm the prettiest woman on earth and still finds me hot as ever. He's sweet, I know, but there are times that I feel weak, feel undesirable and I don't have the interest because of the said changes. The thought of having sex with my baby inside feels weird too. He gets pretty annoyed too when I turn him down for sex. And when he realizes that I give him "pity sex" he still gets upset which then leads to a petty fight.

Is having sex while pregnant normal? Please give me some advice on how to balance satisfying my husband, boosting our intimacy while pregnant all at the same time.

Fanny

That's sweet! But I've never thought that having sex while pregnant is possible.

Just be honest with him on how you feel. Hope you'd find a way to resolve this.

Daja

I have a lot of pregnant women have sex. Ask your doctor about it. If you do not have a delicate pregnancy I guess it won't be a problem. It would keep the intimacy between the two of you too!

Abigail

Shouldn't you be feeling sexy and pretty that your man still desire you despite the baby bump? Cheer up love

Adalira

Shoot. I am taking duphaston now and need to take a bed rest for a couple of weeks. My OB's explanation? The linings of my uterus got some "scratches" due to my hubby's sperm. Didn't know that his is that potent! LOL! So now I'm taking my bed-rest and we might be taking a break on that...

But hubby and I say "FINE!" all for the baby!!!!

Adalira

Aw, you're sweet. Yes, he does says it most of the time. I still feel awful coz of my preggy rashes and zits... But thanks for the kind words!

Abana

Communication is the key. Tell him what you feel and I know, he'll understand. It's great that our hubbies still find us "tempting" with the bump and all that!

Abana

Sad to hear that but hoping that you're better now...

Next time you're already ok in doing it, might as well use a condom and a lube so as you know you're protected and at the same time you'll feel more comfortable too. Good luck!

Edda

Looks like this is a great time for the "Outercourse" as discussed on another thread....

Gaetana

Open communication + creativity

Open communication - Tell him what you feel. Be transparent and just be honest. It'll be all worth it if the two of you are always open to each other in any matters aside from sex.

Creativity- I understand that most of the time we feel so uninterested in sex especially when we're pregnant. But are you sure you're not just bored? Check yourself. If you feel like you're getting bored on the same old thing, then try to be creative! Explore the more artistic stuff in carrying the deed out excitingly. Just make sure that what you're performing is safe for the baby. Bear that in mind. Don't get carried away LOL!

Good luck!